Never Again....

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Another dark day in America is upon us, another day where I can't possibly bring myself to wrote about what I had planned to write about here, because it seems insanely trivial to talk about fashion, amazing decor hacks or our favorite recipes this week. 

At last count 59 people were murdered and hundreds shot if the middle of a concert in Las Vegas. How can we continue to function normally after a massacre like this? 

Scrolling through social media is such a surreal thing on days as devastating as these, you are either seeing people who are expressing exactly what you are feeling inside or you want to scream at the trivial garbage that shows up in your feed... "No one cares about your tummy tea today Janet!" 

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Overwhelmingly one of the main things we have seen is an outpouring of love, hurt, questioning why and HOW this tragic event was able to take place. There is an overwhelming cry for GUN SENSE in our country..... Yep, we are rejoining the phrase... So don't come crying g here about GUN CONTROL.... You want to keep your hand gun? You just NEED to have your shot gun because you have to go shoot helpless deer in the woods? Sure, if that makes you feel like more of a man or an American that's your right. But absolutely NO ONE needs a gun that can do this damage. I dare you to argue otherwise. 

One of the main problems getting our feelings heard is that so much of our congress is owned by the NRA - Our president is very likely deeply tied to the organization, and not for his moral beliefs, I would be hard pressed to find one deeply grounded moral or belief in that man, he is deeply tied in for MONEY.  Yep, the NRA contributes millions of dollars to put people in office who will vote their way. 

"Guns exist for the sole purpose of killing, and they’ll continue to devastate our families and communities until we dramatically limit their availability.

Unfortunately, the National Rifle Association has spent millions of dollars advancing its guns everywhere agenda, buying off members of Congress, and spreading lies about gun reform. In 2016, the lobby invested over $30 million to elect Donald Trump and spent another $20 million electing gun extremists to Congress. "

This is information from Guns Down America, we recommend you follow them on twitter. Guns Down America is following the money and calling people out. For every tweet about a State Representatives "Thoughts & Prayers" for the victims of Las Vegas, they have the amount the NRA contributed to their campaign. You have never seen anything as disgusting. 

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Jimmy Kimmel, who has taken his platform and voice and become a representative for ALL OF US, he speaks the truth on television to millions of people and we hear him! Yes, maybe people can say, what right does a comedian and late night talk show host have speaking about anything political. Well, most of the people who say that voted for a game show host who has been the punchline of jokes in America since I was a little girl.... So. 

If you are looking for ways to speak up, and we know so many of you are. Here are a few ways to have your voice heard and hopefully help lead America into the right direction so we never have to wake up to news like this again. It has happened to many times in our lives, and whats worse, too many times in our children's lives to just stand by. 

1. GUNS DOWN AMERICA

2. Every Town For Gun Safety

3. Reach out to your representatives

Urge your representatives to find a compromise, to introduce legislation, to return the campaign donations they received from the NRA. Let them know that as an American, as a Mother, Father, Sister, Brother, Son, Daughter that you believe there is no practical reason for anyone to possess high-capacity magazines.

We are not alone in this. We DO have people in our country fighting the good fight for us. We need to shine the light on those people, we need to organize and register and VOTE. We need to take our country back from the narrow minded agenda of the NRA and all those that can't see that a compromise can be reached. 

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Thank you Sen. Chris Murphy for speaking up and calling out our Congress. You have our support. 

 

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Thank you Rep. John Lewis, for all you do and your long fight to stand up for America. 

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Thank you Cory Booker for standing for Gun Reform and calling people out on their actions, not just their words. 

Stay safe, I hope we never have to wake up to this news again. Fight the good fight, we are with you. 

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And we can't close out this day without a tribute to the beautifully talented and gifted musician Tom Petty who passed away last night. For most of our lives this man's music was woven into the background. Songs that will forever remind us of being young, being free and feeling the beauty that is all around us. Thank you Tom Petty for being the definition of American Rock & Roll. 

Hate can't drive out hate....

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If you are anything like Erin & I you are finding it really hard to not be pissed these days. 

Not only are outrageous and heartbreaking events going down all around the world, as American's we also have to live with the fact that we have a mad man for president. 

Yes, it is no secret that we have been long standers in the Anti-Trump camp. At the risk of sounding crass, the guy is a total racist, misogynistic, bigoted douche bag who has no idea how to be a leader. 

We spend endless hours on twitter and watching the news... We call our state representatives, we call other state's representatives and sign every petition we can get our hands on. It's been 6 months, 6 long upsetting months. It is hard not to be filled with darkness. Darkness is not a healthy place to live.... We have been searching for moments of light in our own lives. 

So, in the effort to not let darkness consume our minds, we have some ideas on how to give your brain and heart a break. Don't worry, we are still working every day to get Donald Trump out of office and he will be, it's just a waiting game.

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Get out in nature, nothing will remind you that we are all just a blip in time like being out in nature. That may not sound like a thought that will fill you with happiness, but it sort of is. The Earth is so beautiful and full. Mother Nature is so awe-inspiring it can feel kind good to know it's all so much bigger than us. There is a power in that vastness that we sometimes forget the Earth possesses: much more powerful than we give the Earth credit for. 

 

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Call an old friend. Sometimes reconnecting with someone from your past can bring up all the warm fuzzy feels just like Thanksgiving dinner or Christmas morning. People who share memories with you can be a touch stone, even if they are not in your day-to-day life. Hearing about how they are doing and whats happening in their lives can take you out of your own head. You know the friend that keeps popping into your head? I am sure we all have one. CALL THEM, you won't regret it! 

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Indulge yourself! Get a facial, or a full-body massage, take a little time for you. You won't believe how good it feels to zone out and let your mind wander. Relax and let your thoughts float away... Or use the time to formulate the perfect plan to organize a march to demand the Impeachment of Donald Trump.... Oh! wait, that didn't work. 

 

Watch horribly mindless television! I have to say that over the years my biggest weapon against strife has been Lifetime Television.... Whenever the shit hits the fan it's great to know you can find a movie where someone is going through WAY, WAY crazier shit than you could even dream up! I love an over-dramatic, over acted, questionably plotted movie more than pretty much anything! Pop some popcorn pour your self a glass of wine and forget the real world for a second. 

Now the number one thing NOT TO DO while you think about Donald Trump. Don't you dare pick up the tweezers! You will regret it forever no matter how good it feels at the time. Walk away friends! 

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We are all in this boat together and we WILL get this done, we are not saying give up, we are saying remember that there are still good things in the world! Don't let the darkness and the hate drag you down! We are bigger and better than that! Walk around, refresh your brain, recharge your soul and then come back and fight! 

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XOXO- M&E

The First Monday In May- Our top Met Gala picks

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Theme for Monday nights Met Gala

Every year we patiently wait for Vogue Magazine's Met Gala.  They call it the Oscars of fashion, and it is for a few reasons.  The main reason would be because it is ALL about the red carpet.  But the true reason for the Gala is to raise money for  Metropolitan Museum of Art's Costume Institute in New York City.  Each year it honors a specific Designer who has changed the history of fashion and this year was the Legendary Rei Kawakubo of Comme des Garcons with the theme of Avant Garde.  

Here are our faves (and not so faves) of the evening...enjoy the brain break!

(SORRY THE PHOTOS ARE NOT COMING OUT! The resolution isn't even for each of them!)

Since the theme was Avant Garde (see description above) we chose a stringent voting process...and by voting it was Mieke and I sending our favorites back and forth and of course they were exactly the same.   Now there were some stunners...but wearing a gorgeous dress with a gorgeous body and face doesn't mean you will win if you weren't daring and forward thinking.  Sorry Gisele and Candice Swanepoel... Here are our fashion forward favorites-

Zendaya in Dolce Gabanna- YES YES all of it

Lui Wen in Off White- Not sure why we love this so much but the denim ball skirt with the netting on top is gorgeous

Gigi Hadid in Tommy Hilfiger- For such a beachy type girl this look is beautifully avant garde with out being slutty or silly

Naomi Watts in Stella McCartney- This dress (ugh these blurry pics!) is stunning!  Perfect amount of sexy, forward thinking and fashionable

Cara Delevigne in Chanel- A futuristic show stopper in a suit.  That is not easy to do or pull off

Rihanna in Comme des Garcons- YES!  The end.  For the opposite of this see Katy Perry on how Avant Garde can go wrong

Michelle Monaghan in Paco Rabanne- We gasped when she came out.  This is gorgeous, avant grade and beyond special

Lily Aldridge in Ralph Lauren Collection- It would be hard for her not to look good but the crispness of the white with the bold red boot and bright pink tulle face netting is stunning

Lily Collins in Giambattista Valli- ALL KINDS OF YES!  Rob and Mariel you win!  Congrats you guys on dressing the best of the night!  This ladies and gentleman is Avant Garde done right!

Laura Osnes in Christian Siriano- Not the most daring of the night but gorgeous, different and lovely all at once

And for the not so great...

NO Katy...NO

OK now the theme was Avant Garde but there is also a way to take it so off it doesn't do the word justice.  There is also a way to ignore it and just wear a Calvin Klein column dress (seriously Gwyneth??)  Here are our not so favorites of the night

Madonna in Moschino- NO. Daring? Yes.  Good? Nope

Gwyneth Paltrow in Calvin Klein- What?  That cut, those shoes?  You know better madame

Chrissy Teigen in Marchesa- Hmmm for such a funny, cute and sexy woman , this dress is confusing, frilly and not good

Kerry Washington in Michael Kors- She can pull anything off...anything except for this cyber raggedy anne dress.

Diane Krueger in Prada- DIANE!  Where are you?  You are our muse...our fashion crush! This is so bland and safe...next year?

Claire Daines in Monse- NO.  Where is her BF to tell her this?  

Who were your faves? Comment below!  We did have a few more but one of our kids just walked into the room and I am going to go cuddle with her so, you know...#momlife  (PS sorry again about the blurry pics!)

xoxo TWH

 

Cellulite. We got a few natural ways to kick it in the butt (puns always intended)

Let's all say it out loud, together...CELL-YOU-LIGHT.  We all got it...well 85% of us do...and who are these 15%?  Can we meet them?  Oh wait...we did..at Coachella.  The long limbed uber models all under 30 with tight skin and not a dimple in sight ...well at least not on their legs.  But we digress...  

Why is cellulite SO embarrassing?  If 85% of women have it, then why do we feel ashamed by it?  Most women who have it are already genetically predisposed to have it and the others may have it for a million other reasons.  Is it because the over airbrushing of our society says its awful?  So along with the other long list of things we buy into, we also buy into the fact that cellulite is unacceptable...yep.  So until we can change our own thoughts of how beauty truly is within and everything we have on the outside is perfect we will try to find ways to lessen the dimples and divots on our rears and thighs.  I called Mieke in tears last week because along with my Thyroid "petering out" and getting older and more wrinkled, I now have a few new visitors in the form of cellulite blankets on my legs and stomach.  She quickly turned the psychotic and neurotic convo into one of enlightenment.  So I began some research based on her idea of what I could do.

Cellulite is caused by a few factors other than just weight gain or genetics.  It can also be caused by hormone imbalances, poor diet, fad diets, dehydration, total body fat, lack of physical activity and skin color and thickness.  

There are a few lasers and radio frequency treatments dermatologists can do to help but they are thousands and thousands of dollars per treatment area and there is no guarantee they will work.  And if they do it will take more than one treatment to get the job done.  So I turned to the more natural methods and here is what I found out....

NATURAL WAYS TO REDUCE CELLULITE-

  1. Detoxify
  2. Dry Brushing and Coconut oil
  3. Coffee Scrub/Wrap
  4. HYDRATE

DETOXIFY

The body stores toxins in fat to help minimize how much toxicity your vital organs are exposed to. The dimples and pockets of cellulite are also full of toxins. Toxicity accumulated in your body over the years will show in your cellulite (and a myriad of other unpleasant symptoms).  Take epsom salt baths, cut out refined sugars, processed foods, meats, cheeses and sodas and drink water and green tea and get active!

DRY BRUSHING (from wellness mama)

In addition to sloughing away dry skin on areas like knees, elbows and ankles, body brushing promotes tighter skin, cell renewal and blood flow. This also helps the lymphatic system release toxins and aids in digestion and kidney function. You’ll also notice a glowy, smooth complexion. We love it because it’s one of the easiest, cheapest and most effective things we can do for promoting healthy skin.

Using a natural bristled brush (plants) using upward motions towards your heart with a little muscle (enough to exfoliate but not hurt or irritate the skin), brush skin up and around.  Make sure skin and brush are dry.  Then hop in a hot shower and slather on pure coconut oil when finished.  Why put toxins back in your skin with a lotion filled with them?  (guilty!)

COFFEE SCRUB/WRAP

This treatment can be moderately effective. Try using fresh ground coffee to maximize the benefits, as it has more antioxidants and caffeine than used coffee grounds. Try this coffee-grind cocktail: Mix 1/4 cup ground coffee with 3 tablespoons hot water and let the mixture sit for 10 minutes to absorb the water and form a paste. Then, mix in 2 tablespoons of coconut oil to help bind the grinds. (This will make it easier to spread on, and offer extra moisturizing effects.) Cleanse problem areas in a warm shower, then turn off the water and apply the scrub by massaging in a circular motion for 2-4 minutes with your hands or a washcloth. Rinse with warm water to remove all grounds, then pat dry and moisturize if desired.  Or don't rinse it off and wrap plastic wrap around it and let it sit for an hour or 2.

How it works: The caffeine and antioxidants in coffee are moderately effective to mitigate the appearance of cellulite in the short term. As a stimulant, the caffeine in coffee dilates blood vessels, which temporarily tones and tightens tissue. Plus it increases circulation and reduces water retention, both of which may also help smooth the rumpled look of cellulite. The antioxidants in coffee may help to release toxins, which is not only helpful for cellulite, but for healthy skin in general.

HYDRATE- 

Drink water...and lots of it.  At least 64 ounces a day.  Add some lemon or fruit or mint to add to the health benefits.  Clear out toxins that aid in making cellulite in your body with the help of a little h2o.  Clear skin, more energy and less dimples??...IN!

Over it, but don't have a gazillion dollars to do laser, Coolsculpting or rf?  Here are a few products that may help as well-

Cellulite or not...YOU ARE PERFECT.   

xoxo TWH

How to do Coachella in your 30's & beyond.

Coachella 

Coachella 

Oh Coachella, you're like a dear old friend... From the very first Coachella ever when we were young & single and free to all the years since, many years we had to miss because of babies in the belly & at the breast. 

Last year Erin & I returned after a few years to Coachella and were reminded of the magic, beauty, and freeness of standing in the middle of a field on a warm night under millions of stars with your favorite bands up on stage giving you their hearts... It honestly is a magical experience. 

But returning to Coachella or any festival setting after your belly & boobs have been through childbirth can be intimidating.... Mothers always struggle with dressing our bodies after kids, but something about a festival weekend adds a little more freak-out to our lives. 

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For some girls Coachella is the one weekend a year they get to go full-on BOHO, the same way Halloween is a chance to go full-on sexy costume... But since we are such crazy amalgams of hippie/tom-boy/beastie girls/ballerina/punkers the 1000% boho never feels authentic on us, in fact, we shy away from it. 

So what do we wear?

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Mom Jeans

How do you dress for Coachella when you are no longer in your 20's and you're a mama?

Thankfully our generation of Mamas are able to be fashionable & fun. We can dip our toes into the fashions of the past without going overboard into the realm of "costume".... So for us that means, no flower crowns, no native American headdresses & no crop tops thank you very much! 

Granted, we have never been the girls who follow the "dress for your age" rule... As evidenced by the fact that we usually dress like 15-year-old boys. (Baggy jeans, sneakers & vintage tees we'll never let you go!)  

Once you are out of your twenties you have the luxury of having more confidence in yourself and a much clearer idea of who you really are. 

Along with the confidence and self-knowledge come a few laugh lines that show you've had a life full of smiles, long gone are the days when you follow trends or try and be someone else, there is great comfort in that! I mean, yes we would take our 21-year-old bodies back in a heartbeat,  but not if we had to give up all we've learned and loved. 

This year, we are looking back in time to the ladies that always got it just right and we taking inspiration from a few classics for our festival looks. These ladies have a style that lasts through the generations, and that's what you want. Here are some of our favorites. 

1. Obviously Jane Birkin- Because no one else makes the most simple clothes painfully stylish and perfect. Jane never did it wrong and if you keep the simplicity of her style in mind, you will never over do it. 

2. Another classic, Lauren Hutton is pure inspiration. No one rocked all white like this woman. Take a page out of her book and bring the freshness to the desert. 

3. Girly - girl tomboy Punk queen Debbie Harry is always such an inspiration in our daily dressing... The queen of the tiny vintage T. 

Here are some of our favorite sources for stylish grown ass lady festival pieces. 

1. Christy Dawn for dreamy romantic sundresses

2. Zara for embellished tops & classic basics

3. Prism Boutique for perfect T-Shirts

4. Flynn Skye for sexy simple basics

5. Free People for all things denim

6. Ula Johnson for dreamy investment pieces 

We hope we helped inspire you to relax, have fun and go for the classics as you pack for your weekend away! Remember, breath it in and enjoy the magic & of course don't forget to check out this cute band DREAMCAR while you're at Coachella.  

XOXO- M&E

 

Greetings from inside my head!

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I Want To Look Inside Your Head is a photograph by Juli Scalzi

So much of this year (since I am a mom, I count by school calendar) has been emotional and taxing. 

Not only in our personal lives but in the world around us at large, The mixture of devastating blows with uplifting and inspiring moments have made the past months a roller coaster.... Yes, we have a morally corrupt leader who legitimately not know what he's doing in office, yet never in all my life have I been so inspired by my peers drive and fire to stand up and fight against what they know is wrong and band together in the most awe-inspiring ways. 

I believe I have mentioned here, for me, emotionally this year is interesting because I have my youngest son in Kindergarten and my oldest son is now 3 months away from finishing elementary school altogether. This is one of those heartbreak mixed with pride moments that only a Mama can understand. How in the world do our babies grow up so fast? 

I was asking Erin last night.... Could I have postpartum depression 6 years after having my last baby? - Of course, I looked it up, you can actually have postnatal depression at least 4 years after having a baby, even without previous signs. 

What I really think is that the "baby blues" never really completely go away.... Every moment of our lives is dedicated to our children, even if I am not physically with them they are always in the foremost of my thoughts. Watching children grow up is both a source of tremendous pride and also somewhat like watching your favorite balloon float away. 

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I am fortunate enough to be close with my boys, we have a wonderful and open relationship... I really consider my almost 11-year-old to be the best and most lively company, we have long meaningful talks and he knows he can say anything and ask me anything - 

What more could a Mama ask for as her child approaches young adulthood? But it is still scary, How do you mamas of teenagers not just live in constant fear?! The world is so scary! 

Maybe that's what the mama blues are, the nagging feeling like you can't protect your kids from everything in the world you want to protect them from.... They will have their hearts broken, they will be bullied and treated badly at some point, by someone, they will have accidents & make poor choices even though you've taught them better... Maybe it's just that scary unknown.

This school year is almost over, 3 months and counting until summer break! It went by so fast & I have a feeling once those long baby years are over, everything just flys by.  Ready or not. 

 

XOXO- M&E